February 28, 2011
Written by Manfred Kramer
In our society, stress is a daily occurrence which people live with as if it were part of our lives. Complications caused by stress are often underestimated and not even noticed. There are people that thrive on stress and contend that they need stress to function. For them, stress has a purpose.
We should understand, however, that no form of stress is healthy and conducive to the well-being of body and mind.
There are enough studies that prove, that stress causes too much strain on us and is really one of the major causes of sickness and death. Stress has always a negative effect on us. No matter how anybody looks at stress, studies prove that there is absolutely no benefit for humans.
How can we cope with stress and effectively relieve it?
1. We should make it a habit to plan for the day to be more peaceful and include more joy. Just by asking oneself: “Is there anything today that is fun and that can help me to have more happiness?”, causes stress in some people. Some are not even able to experience a day with joy and love for life, much less arrange a day like that. Fear, rejection, quarrels, aggression, and unwillingness create additional levels of stress and bring all hopes for change to nothing. Hence, it is essential to look for moments of stress in our day, what people we normally associate with, what subversive as well as obvious incidences happen. To bring this up conscientously in our mind is the first step to relieve stress. Only through recognition of stress conditions can we develop the inner need that motivates change.
2. Stress has one cause: the lack of love and acceptance of oneself. We all know that: when we are happy and balanced, things around us cannot really touch us. When we are stressed or full of guilt feelings, it takes only a small disturbance and we are much more susceptible to stress. Our own attitude towards ourselves is the decisive factor in all areas of our life. There is not one person that has ever been happy by feeling guilty. We encounter, however, those that became sick and destroyed themselves because of unresolvable guilt feelings. Guilt is a method to hinder one’s effectiveness and then withdraw from life of activity. Guilt is an enormous stress factor that can drive people into ruin.
Just let us learn to love and to accept ourselves – despite our flaws! That includes to forgive, to love and accept ourself. Making this thought process daily, it will help us to improve from day to day in joy and happiness. Guaranteed!
Your suggestions and comments are always very welcome.
Stress-free Living Ahoi,
Word of the day:
“I accept life unconditionally. Most people ask for happiness on condition. Happiness can only be felt if you don’t set any condition.”
Artur Rubinstein, 1887-1982, Polish born Pianist